Kink Resources Short List

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BDSM Information Links: Ranai’s Short List

In addition to resources in print, and what we can learn directly from other people, there are various BDSM resources available on the net. Sometimes I get a request for BDSM information websites. Below is the current list I send to people (English language), with the accompanying text. Feel free to copy, archive, re-post on your website, send to someone who asks you for BDSM information, and amend as you please.

Yeah, I know it isn’t really a short list.

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Here’s a list of BDSM links.
Enjoy!

This collection of information websites is for and by people with various interests. I’m simply sending you the whole lot and you can peruse texts you find interesting at your leisure over the time.

From my personal perspective: Please take everything other people write or say with a grain of salt. Nobody else can ever determine what you are ‘supposed to like’ or how you are ‘supposed to feel’. Only you can discover what is good for you, here and now, by trying out things that interest you, leaving aside things that don’t interest you, and by being honest to yourself and the person(s) you are with. Don’t ever pretend that you like or want something you don’t. Don’t ever assume that you know what another person likes or doesn’t like – ask them what their own wishes, desires and interests are, and listen to them. Please be mindful of safety warnings, physical and emotional well-being, and the ethics of consent: voluntary, informed consent of everyone involved. Other than that, what counts is your inner voice. To find out about your individual inner desires, listen inside yourself.

Best wishes!

Kink, BDSM and Fetish Information Sites
Recommended Texts
Glossaries and Reference
Starting out, Relationships, Dating, Personals
Safety
Techniques and Activities
Communication and Checklists
Bondage Tutorials
Groups and Gatherings
Discussion Forums and Online Social Networks
General Sexuality Information
More Places to Look

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Kink, BDSM and Fetish Information Sites

www.sexuality.org/bdsm.html – Society for Human Sexuality BDSM Archive
www.leathernroses.com – Leather and Roses BDSM Resource Site
www.evilmonk.org/A/menu.cfm – Ambrosio’s BDSM Site
http://gloriabrame.com – Gloria Brame, Kinky Resources
www.bcwsd.com/backroom/contents.shtml – BDSM Backroom
www.tngc.org/tngc/newbie.html – The Next Generation of Chicago Newbie Center
www.leatherviews.com/kinkyinfo.htm – Jack Rinella’s Leatherviews
www.bannon.com – Race Bannon, Intelligent information, ideas and insights about the adventurous side of sex and relationships
www.revisef65.org – Revise F65
http://ncsfreedom.org – National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
http://carasresearch.org – CARAS, Community-academic consortium for research on alternative sexualities
www.soulshaven.f2s.com – Soul’s Haven
http://sagacitygroup.net – Sagacity Group, British Columbia
www.albanypowerexchange.com/BDSMinfo/articles.htm – Albany Power Exchange BDSM Info
www.nlacolumbus.com/education/edumenu.html – National Leather Association Columbus Articles
http://nelaonline.org – New England Leather Alliance
www.arizonapowerexchange.org – Arizona Power Exchange
www.cepemo.com – Columbia Erotic Power Exchange
www.saroftreve.com/workshop/projects.shtml – Sartan’s BDSM Workshop: DIY Projects
www.sadomechanix.dk – Sadomechanix
www.jaywiseman.com – Jay Wiseman
www.planetmidori.com – Midori
www.soj.org – The Society of Janus
www.bdsm-education.com – BDSM Education, Electric Switch
http://collarncuffs.com – CollarNCuffs, Femdom Resources
www.wizdomme.com – Wizdomme
www.frugaldomme.com/frugal.htm – The Frugal Domme
http://leatherdyke.com – Leatherdyke, women-only community space by leatherdykes, for leatherdykes
www.smgays.org – SM Gays, social and educational group for gay men interested in consensual, sexual sadomasochism. Information sheets
www.pawscave.dircon.co.uk/IML – John Pendal’s Articles
www.hawkeegn.com/bdsm/kink.html – Lord Saber’s BDSM Page
http://public.diversity.org.uk/deviant/index.html – Deviant’s Dictionary
www.drkdesyre.com – Caryl’s BDSM Page
www.lantoniou.com – Laura Antoniou
masterslaveconference.org – Master Slave Conference
www.safersaner.org – Safer + Saner
www.lauragoodwin.org/essays.html – Laura Goodwin
www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html – BDSM? What? Why? How? Franklin Veaux
www.symtoys.com – SymToys, Ideas and Scenarios
http://boybear.us – Slave David Stein
http://latches.webslaves.com – Latches, support for submissive women
www.seekers.org.uk – DS Seekers
www.vanilla-not.com – Vanilla-not, a DS Web Center
www.domsub.info – Domsub Info
www.ecstagony.com – Agony and Ecstasy (archived)
www.leatherarchives.org – The Leather Archives and Museum Chicago
www.penitentialarts.com – Penitential Arts, history on the kinky side

Recommended Texts

http://sfsi.org/bdsm-fetishes-and-variations – What is BDSM? San Francisco Sex Information FAQ
http://gloriabrame.com/domidea/fallacy.htm – Five fallacies about SM by Gloria Brame
www.soj.org/miesen1.html – A view on sadomasochism by Don Miesen (archived)
www.evilmonk.org/A/terms.cfm#closing – When scene people meet someone… by Ambrosio
www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/Switch/topsbottomsswitchesbyrobjellinghaus.htm – Switching: What’s a switch?
www.xeromag.com/fvbdswitch.html – What’s with switching, anyway? By Franklin Veaux
http://gloriabrame.com/glory/glorbio2.htm – How a nice Jewish girl like me became an unrepentant pervert by Gloria Brame
www.sexuality.org/latrans.html – Laura Antoniou transcript
www.tngc.org/tngc/NC_safetyzone.html – Out of the safety zone: codes of conduct and identity in SM communities by Alison M. Moore
http://nelaonline.org/cmsms/index.php?page=domestic-violence-outreach – New England Leather Alliance Domestic Violence Outreach
http://gloriabrame.com/domidea/abused.htm – Are you being abused? A notice about domestic violence in the SM/fetish scene
http://tnlr.org/about-partner-abuse/sm-v-abuse – The Network / La Red: SM vs. Abuse
www.evilmonk.org/a/oldguard.cfm – The old guard: the history of leather traditions by Guy Baldwin
www.revisef65.org/supportWHO.html – Scientific and political support for the Revise F65 reform. Second report to the World Health Organization by Odd Reiersøl and Svein Skeid

Glossaries and Reference

www.evilmonk.org/A/terms.cfm – A glossary of terms and some words of warning about BDSM jargon
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_BDSM – Glossary of BDSM in wikipedia
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_BDSM_topics – BDSM topics in wikipedia
http://wipipedia.org – Wipipedia, fetish and BDSM encyclopedia
http://kink-wiki.dreamwidth.org – Kink Wiki
www.bcwsd.com/backroom/library/dict_us/index.htm – BDSM Backroom Dictionary
http://gloriabrame.com/domidea/chgloss.htm – A Glossary of Scene Slang
www.xeromag.com/fvbdglossary.html – BDSM Glossary
www.datenschlag.org/english/bisam/index.html – BDSM and fetish books: searchable international bibliography BISAM

Starting out, Relationships, Dating, Personals

www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/raventipsheet.htm – Tip sheet for beginners by Lady Green and Jay Wiseman
www.leatherviews.com/kinkyinfo/9906.htm – Overcoming fear by Jack Rinella
www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/domadvic.html – Advice to a novice dominant
www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/Dom_DommePages/learntobeatopbyjohnsongray.htm – How can I learn to be a good top?
www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/Sub_bottom/goodbottom.htm – How can I learn to be a good bottom?
www.leathernroses.com/domination/sabernovicedom.htm – Lord Saber’s views on being a novice dom
www.leathernroses.com/submission/sabernovicesub.htm – Lord Saber’s views on being a novice sub
www.akashaweb.com/women/goodgirlpreview.html – The good girl’s guide to domination by Akasha
www.xeromag.com/fvbdniceguy.html – Domination for nice guys by Franklin Veaux
www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_10TipsNoviceSubfem.html – Ten tips for the novice, single, heterosexual, submissive woman by Jay Wiseman. (Good advice and warnings to take to heart for any person starting out.)
www.pawscave.dircon.co.uk/IML/beef23.htm – Gaining SM confidence by John Pendal
www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_MunchGuide.html – A beginner’s guide to munches by Jay Wiseman
www.darksideofpassion.com/personal.htm – How to write an effective personal by Atheris. (Written for men who are looking for a dominant woman; useful for anyone looking for a relationship that includes BDSM.)
www.lesbotronic.com/advice-for-lesbian-personals.html – Advice for using the personals. (Essay series on Lesbotronic about writing and interacting on online dating sites; helpful for people regardless of gender and orientation.)

Safety

http://gloriabrame.com/domidea/playsafe.htm – Six thinking points before playing with someone new by Gloria Brame
www.bcwsd.com/backroom/library/articles_us/bdsm-safety.html – Safety first – fun second: safety when meeting for the first time
www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravenmeetingonlinetorl.htm – Meeting people from online in real life
www.leatherviews.com/kinkyinfo/9918.htm – Rules for meeting strangers by Jack Rinella
www.recon.com/safety.aspx – Guidelines on safer dating, Recon
www.leathernroses.com/submission/coyoteadvice.htm – Slave safety: advice from one slave to his brothers by Coyote

Techniques and Activities

www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/chrismtechniques.htm – Eight techniques for maintaining trust and communication during a scene
www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm_scenarios.html – Toys, techniques, role-playing scenarios
http://nelaonline.org/cmsms/index.php?page=safesexbook – Basic guidelines for safer sex and SM interactions, New England Leather Alliance
http://actoronto.org/home.nsf/pages/bdsm – BDSM: Safer Kinky Sex
www.bdsmclasses.com/safetymanual.php – Safety manual by Catherine Gross
www.frugaldomme.com/esoteric/default.htm – Techniques and scene ideas
www.frugaldomme.com/dangers/default.htm – Techniques and safety
www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/mstmichaelfigging.htm – Figging, the art of ginger root play
www.bdsmwaxplay.com/erotic_waxing.htm – Wax play
www.officerwes.com/electrical/index.html – Electricity. Erotic uses by Officer Wes
http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualroleplay/ht/sexfantasyroles.htm – How to explore fantasy sexual role play by Cory Silverberg
www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_BreathPlayMain.html – Essays on breath control play by Jay Wiseman
www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_Fainting.html – Assessment and Treatment of “Fainting” During BDSM Play by Jay Wiseman
http://venusenvy.ca/sex_ed – Venus Envy Sex Ed Articles
www.medicaltoys.com/doc-lib.htm – Medical Fetish Library. How-to’s, safety precautions, resources
www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/chrismaftercare.htm – Aftercare by Chris M.
www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/jerseyaftercare.htm – Aftercare by Jersey Girl

Communication and Checklists

www.wizdomme.com/infopack/negotiate.shtml – Negotiation questionnaire
www.cepemo.com/checklist.html – 200 Question BDSM Checklist, printable version
www.cepemo.com/Negotiate.pdf – What do you want to do? Basics of negotiating BDSM play (PDF)
www.pawscave.dircon.co.uk/IML/beef14.htm – Topics to cover with a new SM partner by John Pendal
www.soulshaven.f2s.com/nchk_main.php3 – BDSM checklist to fill out online
www.vampirespet.com/ActivityChecklist.html – Submissive / dominant / switch activity checklist
http://mojoupgrade.com – Mojo Upgrade. Interactive sex questionnaire for couples to help them discover the fantasies that they might both enjoy together. Sex in general and kink
http://sexionnaire.com – Sexionnaire. The sex questionnaire. Do you have kinky stuff on your mind that you hesitate to reveal to your partner? Do you have a fetish and you wonder if your partner would accept it or not? Sexionnaire is here for you.
www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist – Yes, No, Maybe So. A sexual inventory stocklist. For sex in general. Scarleteen
www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/ready_or_not_the_scarleteen_sex_readiness_checklist – Ready or not? The Scarleteen sex readiness checklist. For figuring out if we’re ready for sex with a partner
www.smarthotfun.com/wwwfolder – Want! Will… Won’t. Charts, Smart Hot Fun

Bondage Tutorials

www.bcwsd.com/backroom/library/articles_us/bkurs01.htm
www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/steelbon.html – Steel bondage
www.grometsplaza.net/packaged/tech/positional_asphyxia.html – Positional asphyxia by Gromet
www.shibarilover.com/bondage101.htm
http://smgays.org/info-sheets/classic-bondage
http://meninrope.com
www.houdini-connections.co.uk
http://park.kir.jp/gay/gana/common/shibari/galshibari.html – Rope bondage, click on the yellow Japanese text in square brackets for step-by-step photos
www.ecstagony.com/eng/info/artbond.htm – Functional bondage (archived)
http://jackelfrink.com/tutorials
http://japanrope.com/tutorial.html
www.bedroombondage.com/bondageu/drbondage/index.html
www.twistedmonk.com/video.htm
www.knottyboys.com
www.washi-nawashi.com
http://monkeyfetish.com
www.officerwes.com/ropeman/harness.htm
http://touwtjes.tk
http://tgv9.free.fr/bondage/savane1.htm
www.bdsm-chicago.com/cram/CRAM_tuts.html
www.symtoys.com/ideas_bondage.html
http://ds-arts.com
www.bondageproject.com/public/info-tipps_e.htm
www.bindme.nl/eframes.htm
www.ropefashions.com
www.ropemarks.com
http://fesselzeit.com/index.html
http://www.youtube.com/user/MiShibari
www.mummified.net/mum_techniques.html – Mummification

Groups and Gatherings

www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgs.html – BDSM groups in various countries
http://fetlife.com/events/all – Upcoming events, Fetlife
http://fetlife.com/places – Places and regional groups, Fetlife
www.darkheart.com/usalist.html – USA sorted by states
www.fetishscene.com/fetishscene/cgi/main.cgi – USA and various other countries
www.theleatherjournal.com/club-directory – Leather clubs, various countries
http://sm-finder.bvsm.de – BDSM groups in Germany
www.schlagzeilen.com/de/smgruppen+und+stammtische/ – Germany, Denmark, Netherlands, Austria, Switzerland
http://kinkforall.org and http://kinkforall.pbworks.com/OrganizeALocalKinkForAll – Kink For All, ad-hoc informational unconferences on sexuality
www.thebdsmeventspage.com – BDSM events
https://ncsfreedom.org/resources/kink-aware-professionals.html – Kink aware professionals, psychotherapeutic, medical, legal
www.bdsmrights.com – Human rights and activism groups

Discussion Forums and Online Social Networks

www.fetlife.com/login – Fetlife, a social network for kinksters and people curious about kink
http://askthekinksters.livejournal.com – Ask the kinksters livejournal community
http://collarncuffs.com/phpBB/index.php – Collar n Cuffs, a femdom community
www.she-makes-the-rules.com – She Makes The Rules, discussions for women and men about daily living in the reality of a female led relationship
www.boundforum.com – The Bound Forum, bondage, BDSM, selfbondage, mummification, chastity, latex, rubber, packaging
www.recon.com – Recon, fetish profiles, personals and chat site for gay men
www.lesbotronic.com – Lesbotronic, general lesbian personals site for lesbian/bisexual/trans/genderqueer women. Romance and dating, friends, hook ups, lesbian community. BDSM welcomed. Worldwide
www.collarchat.com – Collarchat, general BDSM forum part of the dating site Collar Me www.collarme.com
http://bondage.com/forums/default.html – Fetish, Bondage and BDSM message boards
http://okcupid.com – OK Cupid. General dating site. Heterosexual, bisexual, gay. Kink friendly

General Sexuality Information

www.sexuality.org – Society for Human Sexuality
http://sexuality.about.com – About sexual pleasure and sexual health
www.scarleteen.com – Scarleteen, sex education for the real world
www.sfsi.org – San Francisco Sex Information
www.sexualhealth.com – Sexual Health Network
www.brook.org.uk – Brook, free, confidential advice on sex and contraception
www.clitical.com – Clitical, female masturbation and sexuality
www.the-clitoris.com – The Clitoris, dedicated to female sexual pleasure and health
www.gmfa.org.uk/sex/bettersex/index.html – Better sex for gay men
www.superdrewby.com/sex – Gay sex guide
www.sexualpositionsfree.com – Sexual positions, hetero
www.puckerup.com – Tristan Taormino, pucker up
www.tinynibbles.com – Violet Blue, open source sex
www.susiebright.com – Susie Bright
http://sexualintelligence.org – Sexual intelligence newsletter, Marty Klein
www.duckydoolittle.com – Ducky Doolittle
www.charlieglickman.com – Charlie Glickman
www.positive.org – Coalition for positive sexuality
www.woodhullalliance.org – Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance

International Kink Resources Directory

Kink, BDSM, fetishes, sexuality and relationships.
All genders and orientations.
An international directory of resources in many languages.
https://ranai.wordpress.com/kink-resources

Book recommendations in English

Kink resources in print, Andrea Zanin.
http://sexgeek.wordpress.com/kink-resources

Introductory texts about BDSM for educational settings

https://ranai.wordpress.com/2011/12/02/introductory-texts-about-bdsm-for-educational-settings

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I edit and update the lists occasionally. If you should find a broken link, or a website that has moved, or would like to recommend further resources, I’d appreciate a note. Thanks!
Ranai

Ich überarbeite die Listen hin und wieder. Falls ein Link nicht mehr funktioniert, oder eine Seite umgezogen ist, oder du weitere informative Seiten empfehlen möchtest, würde ich mich über eine Nachricht freuen. Danke!
Ranai

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