Checklists

Activity checklists as conversation starters between partners and people who are getting to know each other. Erotic desires, interests, possibilities and limits. Sexuality in general, or combined with kink, fetishes, roleplay…

General Sexuality Checklists
General Sexuality and BDSM
BDSM Communication and Negotiation
BDSM Checklists

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General Sexuality Checklists

Checklists with sexual activites, for thinking and talking about each person’s desires, things to try out some time, and each person’s limits.

www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist – Yes, No, Maybe So. A sexual inventory stocklist. Extensive checklist for sex in general. You can either just read through it online, using it as a mental self-evaluation tool or talking with a partner as you both scroll through it. Or, you can print it out using the PDF file or the printer-friendly version and fill it in by hand.
www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/ready_or_not_the_scarleteen_sex_readiness_checklist – Ready or not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist. For figuring out if we’re ready for sex with a partner.
www.smarthotfun.com/wantwillwontchart – Want! Will… Won’t Charts. Explanations. Becca Brewer, Smart Hot Fun. A sexual desire clarification tool. It’s a long list of things that you could do sexually with a partner. To use the tool you go through and figure out whether or not the activity listed is something that you’re down for.
www.smarthotfun.com/wantwillwontchart/charts – Want! Will… Won’t Charts. Links to the PDF documents. Becca Brewer, Smart Hot Fun. 1. WWW Chart Instructions. 2. Sex acts: Purveyor of Pleasure (‘top’, ‘giver’, or ‘active’ partner). 3. Sex acts: Beneficiary of Bliss (‘bottom’, ‘receiver’, or ‘passive’ partner). 4. Sex toys: Purveyor of Pleasure (‘top’, ‘giver’, or ‘active’ partner). 5. Sex toys: Beneficiary of Bliss (‘bottom’, ‘receiver’, or ‘passive’ partner).

General Sexuality and BDSM Checklist

For covering general sexuality activities and/or BDSM activities, separately or together.

http://mojoupgrade.com – Mojo Upgrade. Interactive online sex questionnaire for two people. Mojo Upgrade presents a list of sexual fantasies to both partners separately and has them indicate their level of interest.

BDSM Communication and Negotiation

Topics to talk about in addition to using a BDSM checklist.

www.cepemo.com/Negotiate.pdf – What do you want to do? Basics of negotiating BDSM play (PDF)
www.pawscave.dircon.co.uk/IML/beef14.htm – Topics to cover with a new SM partner by John Pendal.

BDSM Checklists

Checklists with BDSM activities. Each person fills out their own copy. Then it’s time to read them together, see where interests overlap, and talk about possibilites for future exploration.

Each of these checklists has a somewhat different selection. For inspiring conversations, don’t hesitate to use more than one version and combine the ideas.

www.cepemo.com/checklist.html – 200 Question BDSM Checklist, Printable Version. Columbia Erotic Power Exchange CEPE.
http://sagacitygroup.net/main/knowledge/howto/BDSM%20Checklist.doc/view – BDSM Checklist. A list of BDSM activities and instructions for rating them. Useful when negotiating with a partner. MS Word document for download. To fill out on your computer, or print and fill out by hand.
www.wizdomme.com/infopack/negotiate.shtml – Negotiation questionnaire.
www.vampirespet.com/ActivityChecklist.html – Submissive / dominant / switch activity checklist by Ruby.
http://latches.webslaves.com/checklist.htm – BDSM Checklist, Latches.
www.differentequals.com/download.html – Checklists in MS Word and Excel format as Zip files. Including a medical checklist. Different equals.

www.soulshaven.f2s.com/nchk_main.php3 – BDSM checklist to fill out online.
www.thebrc.net/check_list/default.htm – The BDSM Resource Center. BDSM checklist to fill out online.

www.evilmonk.org/a/checklist.cfm – BDSM Play Partner Check List, including a printable version in MS Word file format, by Ambrosio.
http://bdsm-education.com/checklist.html – BDSM Education. D/s (BDSM) Checklist created by Electric Switch.
www.officerwes.com/play_partner_checklist.htm – Officer Wes’ BDSM Checklist.
http://collarncuffs.com/resources/doku.php?id=partner_check_list – Submissive Femdom / BDSM Play Partner Check List, Collar ‘n’ Cuffs, by Miss Bonnie.
www.domsubfriends.com/library/question1.shtml – DomSubFriends Scene Questionnaire by Sir Viktor.
www.vanilla-not.com/reallife/checklist.html – Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List. Vanilla-Not.
http://thatotherpaper.com/files/Yes_No_Maybe.pdf – Yes-No-Maybe. A kinky list. RC McCloud. (PDF)

www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/SM_BD_DS/Checklist/BDSMFetishPLAYLIST.htm – BDSM / Fetish play list by Jrsygir1.
www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/SM_BD_DS/Checklist/bdsmchecklist.htm – BDSM Checklist. Legend.
www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/SM_BD_DS/Checklist/sovereignhousebdsmchecklist.htm – Souvereign House BDSM Checklist.
www.fetishalliance.net/Stories/SM_BD_DS/Checklist/ifieverseeanotherchecklist.htm – If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream. An extremely thorough play checklist by Norische.

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